Since moving to London, I've learned that it's very easy to become isolated in the hustle and bustle of the big city. People move about their own lives completely separately from one another - those stereotypical images that can be conjured of a completely chock-a-block rush-hour tube train trundling under the city in complete silence could not be closer to the truth. A city of strangers, where if you don't know anyone, then it's really very hard to meet anyone.
Saying this, however, there have been a couple of times when, completely by accident and often in an alcohol mist, I've made momentary friends on my way back home.
The first time this happened, I was on the tube on the way home from the pub (as per) and was ill-fatedly trying to spark up a conversation with the guy next to me. The couple sat opposite me joined in with the one-way conversation I was having with this man out of pity and when he got off the train, where I suspect he stood and waited for the next one (he was clearly not Notting Hill material), we continued to talk. We went on to chat about how I was finding it hard to meet people and it turned out that they had too when the first moved to the big smoke. Now, I'm not sure how this happened, but we swapped numbers and they said that they were having a gathering with some friends to chat and eat chilli and that I was perfectly welcome to join. Figuring this was a drunken offer, I said thanks and got off the train, enjoying the fact that I'd had a nice long chat with some very nice people (unless you hadn't noticed, I do like to chat). I woke up the next day to a slightly queasy feeling and a text from Sarah and Carlos, my new-found tube buddies, assuring me that their offer was genuine and I was very welcome to go and chill at their house! Without further ado, I frequented Tesco, where I bought some cider and headed over to their flat. Now, I know what you're going to say - they could have been axe-murderers or gangsters or complete psychopaths and I shouldn't have gone, right? I did consider this but then again, if you don't take these opportunities when they are given to you, how will you ever know? After all, strangers are just friends that you haven't made yet! As it turns out, they are a couple of lovely people, who make excellent chilli, have really nice friends and make great conversation. I stayed all afternoon and although I haven't yet seen them since, I really hope that I will soon.
On another, more recent occasion, I was once again en route back to my house from the pub, this time on the phone to my Dad having a slight existential crisis. Pizza in hand and phone to my ear, I exclaimed to my Dad in a over-dramatic way that 'I just want to write!' with a sweeping arm and an exasperated sigh. Just as I said this, along stumbles a tall, bespectacled man shouting 'ME TOO! I graduated with a degree in Journalism three years ago and what am I doing now? I'm a teaching assistant on minimum wage!'. Feeling that we may have been drunken kindred spirits, I said goodbye to my Dad and had a crazy chat with the guy, who decided that we were soul mates and we had to swap numbers (I was a little wary until he explained that it was fine, he wouldn't stalk me as her was gay and his boyfriend would have issues). Sadly, I haven't spoken to him since, but it was fun whilst it lasted.
It's funny how, in such a cold city where it's an unwritten rule that speaking to others on public transport is punishable by being labeled as unstable, you can have a chat in the middle of the night with complete strangers and find out that you're not so alone after all. Traveling back to your house by bus after the tube closes doesn't have to spell complete silence - from a chat to a bin man to a bitch with a Portuguese woman about how you despair of having to take 3 different buses, you're not quite as alone as you think.
(On a side note, I do know that this is a slightly dangerous way to go about making friends - this city certainly has it's fair share of weirdos, creeps and drug addicts. I am always cautious, don't you worry my dearest worrying friends and family!)
I suppose what I'm trying to say is, sometimes you have to break from conventions and rules and just start a conversation with someone - otherwise, we will all continue to float around in our separate bubbles, unaware that the person sitting right next to us just might be our new BFF.



















